Farshad
from
Australia :
What is personal love? (Love to the opposite gender) what are its levels? Could it lead to …..? Why doesn’t it last long? What happens to it? How could you purify it?
answer:
Soul is an existence whom is stuck in a dark and little room. And in this situation falls into love. The loved one comes on a wall appearing like a window to the light. The light is the love, the idol is real, and the existence of the sun (god) is seen in the room.
Maybe we could describe love in the levels shown below:
Madness (distraction), this is the firs faze of love:
In this situation the lover gets captivated by the beloved, but doesn’t have the ability to recognize love from the beloved. When you ask him of love, he only speaks of the beloved. He has no separate feeling or perception of love and all he sees is his beloved. Actually he only knows the window as the source of light so he will stick to it like glue.
And the beloved turns into a worshiped and the lover looks to her as someone complete and with no mistakes. In this level, the lover is in need for being loved. When he says “I love you” it means that” I am asking you to please love me”.
Very soon this devotion turns into a strong desire and need. Wanting to own, wanting to have the beloved in hand there for the beloved is a source of light that has changed his life. So he has to keep him/her no matter what it takes. He doesn’t know that by doing this, he is actually cutting the window off the wall and putting it in his case under the bed. Lover insists on gathering all the good things in the eyes of the beloved and by this, he is trying to give a meaning to the beloved that is from his own desires. If he doesn’t reach to her, he might be in his imagination for ever, and if he reaches to her all the good things that he used to admire, soon turn into a problem and become annoying. He has many explanations for his idol and he tries to keep them by controlling the beloved. He expects the qualities of light to be seen in the windows frame. After he manages to control the beloved he will se that the window is under the bed and has no light anymore!!! The only thing that’s left from the blue sky is only a piece of glass and a metal frame. He never wanted his beloved to be less than a god but suddenly he understands that she is only a human being. And maybe he might reach this point to judge that everything was a lie!!
Here is where love hurts, hurts because it needs to be loved and needs to own the beloved. He doesn’t wish prosperity for the beloved and asks for his fortune from the beloved.
The lover asks the beloved to “be” but to be the way I want you to be and be mine.
Most of lovers stop at this point.
Friendship, this is the second phase of love consciousness:
In this level, the lover still has not reached a distinction between love and the beloved. But the difference is that he is wise now and introduces himself as a friend to the beloved. He sees himself as a friend and as we now a friend wants the best for the other; Wishes for freedom and prosperity. Here is where the lover wants the beloved to be free and doesn’t have a tendency to making her his own. This is where love is conscious and can be reached by more pondering. That’s what is very obvious and clear: how can I be your friend and wish you prosperity and freedom while I don’t want it for you? And what does it matter if you feel your freedom with someone else. As long as you are happy that’s enough for me. Here is where the lover finds his fortune in the happiness of the beloved (something that the lover only speaks of it in the first level of love). So he’s asking for the welfare of the beloved.
In this level, the lover can’t segregate the light from the window, but he knows that the window can give light until its there at its place, and if he removes it, there will be no light anymore. So wants the beloved as it is, and not the way he wants her to be. He knows that the one whom has brought the touch of god to her is this person with all the faults, wrong doings and problems and all the successes and talents. So gives the beloved the right to be free. The beloved is not love, but is the possibility for the existence of love.
Love in this place still isn’t free of needs. But the difference is that it no more needs to control and own, but it needs the presence and the notice of the beloved. He needs for the beloved to be aware of his love. In this place, when the lover says “I love you”, he actually is asking the beloved to let him love her. Once love starts from here, it always starts from here.
He says “be” to the beloved, and by this he means that just “be” as you are and be for anyone that you like. Just be here.
Being thankful, this is the third level of the existence of love.
In this level the lover reaches to the first distinction between the quality of love and the beloved. He understands that the window is no more the light, it’s just the probability of sensing the existence of light and the beloved is not the quality of love, but is a reason for its being. He has reached the first grasp of love which is separated from the beloved. Reaching this level doesn’t happen very often but mental concentration on the pain of love is the only way to reach to it. Just like when we don’t notice the stomach unless we have a pain in our stomach. A time where the lover reaches to this place that he knows the pain that he has and is willing to get rid of it is nothing but the quality of love; The direct existence of god. And from there on, nothing is going to be the same as before. He doesn’t worship the beloved anymore but is the most thankful to her for what she gave him. Here is where love can simultaneously accept more than a pure love in its heart and with all its warmth and serenity. Therefore love is out of the lover’s property. A wall can see more than a window on it, because it’s the light that is the matter now and not the window.
The being of the lover is thankful to the beloved in any condition. The lover is thankful to god because of the being of the beloved no matter if he has any connection with the beloved or not, even if she doesn’t know. And here is when he says “I love you” he means “I love you”. Love in this level is no more painful and is free from wants. This love is enriched and full of forgiveness and divulgence; Is a giver and no more a receiver. But yet still is based on “me”.
He asks the beloved to “be”, however you want to be and for whomever you want to be and wherever you want to be. But just “be”.
Compassion, this is the fourth phase of love and the level of love itself.
In this level, the dark room explodes and nothing is left except the light.
This level of love is to “be” and not “to be in love “; A connection that flows between the lover and the beloved. Any lover and a beloved, the level that you pass “me”…
And I have no more the permission to talk about the mercy of love. Not told, I will not tell either….
Be love.
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Monireh
from
iran:
Why is every thing against me?
answer:
When you say that every thing is against me, in other words it means that you are against every thing.
It is told that once upon a time a man was driving in a highway; the radio station announced to the drivers that there is some one driving in the wrong direction, and asked them to be careful.
The looks around and says “I wish it was just one, all of these drivers are coming against me”.
So my dear friend, be careful. It seems like every one is coming in the wrong direction of your life path.
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abbas
from
karaj:
If Universe emerges and merges into this divine consciousness, then can anybody guess how many Universe have come and gone before our present Universe ? And how many earths which were part of those previously existed Universe have come into existence ?
answer:
Maybe, but I don't know.
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Rahele
from
Tehran:
How can we don’t think of a special person and separate our existence from each other?
answer:
I can’t get your point properly. Do you want not to think of a special person or you want to separate your world from his/her world? The matter is that the more you try to separate your existence form his/hers, the more you think of him/her. The more you try to banish someone from your world of mind and sensation, or conversely the more you try to acquire his/her world of mind and sensation, the more and more your existence wrestles with his/her thoughts and you think of him/her more and more!
By doing so, you limit yourself more and more and your world becomes smaller and smaller.
Do not forget that: We can’t banish any realization from our beings. We can just choose to be or not to be under the control of this conception. However, there is no other world in your world. This is a section of your world that the more you limit your world, the more his/her presence becomes powerful and noticeable.
“Impersonal Love” toward his/her is the only salvation way from thinking of him/her. The Love that opens your bounds and expands you so much that the one who you created in your realization from his/her, will not occupy much space in your world and you are FREE!
“HATRED” AND “SUPPLICATION” LIMIT THE SOUL ALIKE, AND “LOVE” EXPANDS IT.
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Mohamad
from
Tehran:
What is the “Self”? Who am I? What is the relation between us together and between us and physical, emotional,… bodies?
answer:
The “Self” is that you think you are, and “you” are the one that you “are”. I’m a man, I’m a doctor,… this is your “self” but you yourself, just “are”. The one who knows that he “is”. There are no more things to tell about this matter.
All of our bodies are a part of an endless energetic scope, like the relation of trees’ trunks with each other.
The trees are the unique projections of one thing: the Earth. The relation between our bodies are like that as well: “unique” and besides, completely “endless”. But we ourselves have no relation with each other. We are the “Unity”.
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Darush
from
shahr-e-kord:
First Question: Do all the souls reach the evolution at the end of each period of Existence? Second Question: Is there any relation between each soul’s evolution and whole of the Universe’s evolution and souls’ relationships in various levels of awareness, or is its evolution individually?
answer:
No, I don’t think it is necessary at the end of each period that all the souls reach the awareness. Such souls are waiting for a re-formation of the Existence and continuing their learning in a kind of nothingness.
Neither soul reaches the evolution nor the Universe. There is no fault. The soul becomes aware of his completeness and the Existence and soul continue their growth in this scope, like “tree” and “forest”. The forest develops by trees’ growth (It does not become complete). The trees’ growth is not inapplicable to each other, but it’s not bound to each other as well. The awakening and growth of soul are not separate from the whole of the Universe, but, it’s only related to the soul itself.
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Ali
from
Sanandaj:
What is the mystery of the Existence?
answer:
The mystery of the Existence for whom? For me, are those bases of Existence that I haven’t known yet, and for you, are those which you haven’t known yet.
There is no mystery but our “Unawareness”.
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Hamid Reza
from
Shahriar:
How are we sure that all the ideologies are not made up from the mind? I think fear of mankind is the reason for the creation of them. But I have also tasted the good effects of these ideologies.
answer:
Well then, there is a better field to think more consistently.
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Alireza
from
Tehran:
Is our future life, made before we come to the world of physics? Or do we make it by choosing our way of feeling?
answer:
the feeling that a soul has and knows (mood) makes the world of The experiences of the soul in the highest level (the primary CAUSE) with the being of a soul itself (being & mood :state of consciousness). The energy you spend with your doings reflects to your experiences in a lower level (the secondary CAUSE). These two motives are set on together but, the first one is out of the range of time and place. But the second one happens in this range. With all these things, none of them can limit the world of your choices. They only shape the terms. This means that they only make your possibilities and not your choices.
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Maraym
from
Tehran:
Is it necessary to have a guide for our entrance to the boundary of love? If it is, why? (Why aren't we independent on this issue? and need some one to guide us?)
answer:
I have always heard this question and it has been very weird for me. When we are having a trip to a new country, we look for the best tour with a good guide, and this does not annoy us. That is a natural request and no one feels to loose their independence, or we don’t feel like there is any unusual link between us and the country. Now my dear friend, is the boundary of love smaller than a country? Or do you now it better than you know a new country? Or is there more information? Why do you need a teacher to learn physics? Have you ever seen any one born a scientist? Now is love known more than the physics? The land of love is at the other side of an ocean witch if it has been traveled for more than a million times, it still needs a good ocean guide.
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